Good Morning all!
My mother does not talk about her experience aging. So when I was approaching thirty I asked my career mentor about menopause and her experiences with it so far. She was approaching her late forties and was in peri-menopause. We had conversations about it, more than I ever had with family, and she gave me some advice.
She said, the thing about transitioning into menopause is that you have only so much energy and you have to get really clear about what you want to devote your time to because you require so much more rest at this point in your life. You don’t have the unlimited source of time/energy to do everything you want to do, there is brain fog and forgetfulness, and just plain tiredness. Use your energy wisely.
I was young, I was like aww, naw, that’s not gonna happen to me! But I remembered her advice and I held onto it like a gem, tucked away in my mind.
Now I know for certain, that she was indeed speaking the truth. I don’t like it, but I am finding my energy levels are quite low after reaching menopause, some days are great, others I struggle to keep my eyes open at work. Along with hobbies I enjoy, playing music, going to club meetings, wanting to exercise but needing to write…its tough.
So, sometimes we have to take things slowly…
I want to draw your attention to an example that I think can apply to menopause, with respect, Spoon Theory. A friend mentioned it this past week and it’s quite interesting and illustrates the idea of dwindling resources extremely well. I would respectfully like to co-opt this idea for menopause ( I will also mention that I have been diagnosed ADHD, and with an anxiety disorder so I feel that this theory is useful for menopause as well as for chronic illnesses, etc)
Christine’s work speaks for herself and the article is not only touchingly poignant is feels useful in describing the need for clarity in what we put our energy and time to when we have little of both.
Ultimately, it is a deep practice into daily mindfulness. I would challenge you to read up on spoon theory and consider what you have spoons for in your life. I will say that the less you own, the less owns you and the to me that is one more spoon I can spend on something I want/need to do.
The Slow Minimalist